no wonder I’m tired…
Since my promotion at work… I’ve been putting in 45-50 hour weeks.
The majority of that time has been spent with an employee who makes things less than pleasant. I thought I’d have some issues with her — I’d only been here about 3-4 months, where as she’s nearing her one year mark. But there is a reason I was promoted and she wasn’t.
Anyway. I won’t go into details… but yeah… I’m not the only one who has issues with her. Which is slightly reassuring that it’s not just my managerial naivety, but it is frustrating when none of us can really work well with her. Or when all of us dread working with her. Yes. For the first time ever I actually dread part of my job. It’s a heartbreaking realization.
This chick makes me feel like I’m failing. I’ve actually cried at work because I was just so fed up (luckily I was completely alone in the store). I almost cried when I saw the schedule for this current week and saw yet another 4 day week of her (I luckily get one day with the general manager where my sanity can return).
She wears me thin. I don’t think she’s a good fit for our store. (For many reasons.) But I can’t really do much beyond just doing my job and pushing through.
At least I have an amazing man coming to spend this weekend with me… and I cannot wait to throw my arms around him and just give him the biggest kiss ever.
February 22nd, 2010 at 10:20 am
As a veteran of many hellish job situations, I feel your pain. Unfortunately, Giant Assholes can’t check their assholeness at the door when they come to work. Their assholery permeates their every interaction and effort, and before you know it, you’re caught up in their asshole fog and wondering if you’re the crazy one.
Here’s an uplifting cartoon for you: http://www.randomhouse.com/pantheon/graphicnovels/workhell_4.html
Hang in there.
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February 22nd, 2010 at 2:57 pm
ugh, that sucks. hopefully soon she’ll get what’s coming to her.
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February 23rd, 2010 at 7:48 pm
As much as I don’t like wishing ill on others… it’s hard not to with her…
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February 22nd, 2010 at 6:02 pm
Ah, the long haul workday. It’s no picnic.
One of the biggest things you can do to allay a less-than-pleasant-coworker is actually to try and figure out their communication methods by way of empathy. People are more complex than we think — but if you try and figure out how she responds to things by identifying some kind of root motive, you’d be surprised how often you can get out of the way when she’s on a warpath.
No really, it works. I am speaking from experience.
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February 23rd, 2010 at 7:46 pm
Mostly it’s trying to remind her that I’m the boss and she’s not… oh, and I’d love to get her to stop over sharing about her personal life. And just not come in on days when she has gas… because I like breathing and not wanting to vomit.
This chick is just not a good match for our store, and I’m not the only person who thinks so…
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February 23rd, 2010 at 7:57 pm
So you’re saying she comes in and farts while talking about herself? I swear there is a cartoon in this somewhere.
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February 23rd, 2010 at 8:09 pm
SBD… silent but deadly…. truer words have never been.. typed..
it’s like a gas leak… you just can’t stop it.
I could continue on about her nastiness.. but well… I still *do* have to work with her, and the internets are public… I’m risking enough.
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February 23rd, 2010 at 1:50 pm
And the amazing man also sounds pretty damn lucky.
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February 23rd, 2010 at 7:47 pm
I actually feel pretty damn lucky to have him.
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February 23rd, 2010 at 6:41 pm
Nico,
The root motive method might work with some people, but there is a special subset for whom the pure joy of acting out and inflicting pain on others IS the motive.
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February 23rd, 2010 at 7:50 pm
I think she’s in that subset. Jaron tried reminding me that she’s a human being with her own problems (which, the problems part is DEFINITELY true)…. but she’s more of an evil being determined to make work intolerable and destroy my morale.
An army of ninjas is needed.
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February 25th, 2010 at 11:35 am
that’s painful. i’m glad that it’s not a vendetta against you, but it sucks even more that she’s crappy to everyone
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February 25th, 2010 at 4:47 pm
what really sucks is when she does do her job right, you can see it in her face, the “I’m totally better than you, just try getting rid of me now”… GAH.
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