the occasional over-thinking from over-happiness
“oh fuck, you have no idea how giddy i get when i read your lovey dovey posts!!!!
i feel the SAME way. i’ve always been so put off by people who are all cliche and like wayyyy too into someone at the very beginning…but for the first time in a LONG time, i feel like that. and I’m like holy shit, have i been a cynic all this time???? what is happening to me????
oh my goodness. you make me feel normal. like i’m not crazy. i’m just falling….incredibly, incredibly hard.
and fast.”
-Erika, in a comment on that last post.
I make someone feel normal. Seriously.
Sorry. Just needed to bask in the glory of that sentiment for a bit…
You all know I’m uber happy right now. You all know that I think Jaron is the best. You all know that we’re a ridiculously, adorably and nauseatingly cute couple.
And as Erika pointed out, I’m not the only one. I love that I’m sharing in this OMG YAY-ness. It started out with Joy and her Writer. Then all the steamy awesomeness that is Erika and Blog Boy. The VERY brand new-ness (and nothing official-ness, yet still exciting-ness) of Manic Cupcake and The Bad Boy. And the couple that will out-cute us all, my dear dear friend Lovely and C. (And as far as well established couples, I definitely look up to Rachel & Dan.) Doniree and Mawls also recently started things up — though I know less about those relationships. There’s got to be more. Seriously. It definitely feels like the twitterpating started WAY before spring this year.
Heck, even my mom is in a new and pretty awesome relationship.
As much as I love sharing in the glee and giggles, I know not everyone is at this place. People are going through heartbreak. Someone I care about deeply put her heart out there and got a “not now” and a lot of mixed signals in return. I’ve read on at least two or three different blogs how done people are with dating, online and off. My own brother is ending his second marriage (with a woman who never deserved him).
In observing these other relationships or lackthereof, I found myself comparing where I’m at with all of them. Is it too early to feel this great, to like him so much? Is it weird we’ve only talked on the phone once? How should we be balancing this whole who travels to see whom thing? Should I not have already expressed that I’d be more than 100% okay if he moved to Chicago? Is it weird that he and I have both realized and thought about the whole “four cats” situation? Am I rushing things? Is it odd that we’ve basically picked out my new couch together?
With all of these ponderings… I only have one conclusion. There is no right or wrong in this. There’s only what’s right for us. Our relationship is not theirs and we’re on our own timeline. I need to quit questioning things and just keep enjoying it. Because really, as I’ve said before, this is the best journey ever.
February 17th, 2010 at 9:50 pm
Aw, this makes me so happy.
I’ve always referred to relationships as puzzles… the two of you are the only ones with the full picture and the only ones who can tell whether or not the pieces are fitting together.
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February 17th, 2010 at 9:52 pm
That is a PERFECT analogy for this. (analogy? metaphor? CRAP. I was a partial english major, I swear.)
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February 17th, 2010 at 11:32 pm
I know plenty of people that have found love with 2010. Its a trend or maybe its just the 2010 thing 20/10=2 people happy together
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February 18th, 2010 at 8:42 am
maybe it’s the 2010 thing 2/010= .2 or 201/0 = shit shit! what have I done
thing. Numerology is for suckers. Do real math!
oh and just actually approach people. Most people like to talk about themselves, so if you simply talk with them and ask them about themselves, this whole dating thing isn’t really hard. just the possible relationship afterwards.
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February 24th, 2010 at 12:58 am
I wasn’t doing numerology. Oh and yes I agree, talking isn’t hard. Relationships are hard with the wrong person.
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February 18th, 2010 at 12:03 pm
i love the feeling of a new relationship, especially when it’s with someone who makes you feel special especially when you’re just being you. the best part about relationships like this is that you both have an understanding of the other person that is way deeper than you can realize and that will carry you for years.
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February 18th, 2010 at 8:01 pm
OMG YES. yes, yes, and yes.
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February 18th, 2010 at 6:17 pm
ok can i just tell you the explosion of awesomeness and happiness and unicorns and rainbows and fireworks that i got from reading this post?!?!?!!?
eeeeeee
I am so happy i have new blogs to stalk! and the finale of your post?? like holy shit!!! I am thinking the same thing! I mean the M word was muttered today…seriously, no joke. It makes me feel crazy…and I want people to understand, not to think I’m a fool.
imerika´s last blog ..Still ignoring the blog, but…
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February 18th, 2010 at 8:07 pm
Glad I could help with the blog-stalking!
I don’t get that we’re so bombarded with all this OMG TRUE LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT from all these movies but when it comes to real life, people get so freaked out if you it basically happen to you. Maybe it’s all jealousy. Who knows.
But yeah. I totally get where you’re coming from and have been overly excited about your relationship and DUDE, I cannot wait until you update us! I’m dying over here!!
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February 21st, 2010 at 6:30 pm
It’s definitely totally squeee! Worthy.
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February 21st, 2010 at 9:14 pm
You’re such a sweetie for plugging me.
I love reading about new relationships. Love it.
Mine is official now by the way
Eeeeiii!
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February 21st, 2010 at 9:19 pm
YESYESYESYESYES!!! So excited for you two!!
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February 23rd, 2010 at 8:42 pm
Awwww that’s awesome! Congrats! Yeah, sometimes it is hard to just love it and be happy. Instead we worry about it, over thinking things. IT’s tough to just except how awesome it is. Weird, huh?
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February 25th, 2010 at 3:43 pm
it’s nice not being the only person in a long distance relationship, and already thinking about “long term topics”. my boy and i have discussed moving, marriage and babies. i feel like a weirdo, but i remind myself that, at almost 26, i dont want to get seriously involved with someone who isn’t on my page. although, i then have to remind myself not to rush things just because i want marriage and babies… i like your conclusions. i should print that out as a reminder to just enjoy what is happening
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February 25th, 2010 at 4:46 pm
long distance is new to me.
I mean, my first ever boyfriend (1997) was long distance… but.. yeah. not the real thing.
but yeah. all new. and it’s definitely nice actually knowing people who are going through it too…
I think long term topics have popped in my head some, but honestly Jaron and I haven’t really talked about them. Other than he knows I’d be 100% perfectly okay (and happy) if he moved here…
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February 26th, 2010 at 8:53 am
it always starts with the moving
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