clarification.
There were some things I didn’t say on the phone, because at the time I thought it wasn’t worth it… but have since changed my mind.
I saw us as more than friends, thus “seeing each other”… and as we were also both seeing other people too, “open relationship” was really all that I could see to describe it. The way we interacted didn’t make it feel like a fling. Friends with benefits maybe would have been more appropriate. I never considered you to be my boyfriend or that we were really dating.
It’s all semantics, unfortunately.
Anyway. Yes, I wrote that you make me really happy. And that’s damn true. But that’s because in any type of “relationship” I keep, it’s based on a foundation of friendship. We’re still going to be friends, I’m still going to be friends with [her]. The main thing that’s going to change is that I’m going to be less physical — obviously. 
But I’m physical person (even if I toned it down in college), and a hugger. So expect hugs still — just like I hug a lot of my friends, especially if I don’t see them often.
Mostly I want you to know that yes, I’m fine. And yes, I’m going to blog about this too (for clarity for my readers). (In fact, I’ll probably just copy-paste-edit this email…)
Hope you have a good day, great shows (break a leg!), and I’ll talk to you later.
-Erini
The Musician and I had a talk today… and afterward I sent this email.
December 14th, 2009 at 3:50 pm
Dating is going out on dates. Friends with bennefits is hanging out and feeling each other up. Actually let me clairify that. Friends with bennefits is doing stuff outside of the bedroom. Being friends, yet being more than friends who don’t date. Fuck buddies are the ones that always go over to one another’s place and never go out.
Maybe someone reading this other than the Rinisaurus or friends involved will find my statement helpful.
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December 14th, 2009 at 4:26 pm
And I just have to say, going out with anyone, friend or more so, to get cupcakes is and always will be a Cupcake Date.
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December 15th, 2009 at 12:46 am
My name is Claire. Claire F. Kaytion.
Dates and outtings are different too.
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December 15th, 2009 at 8:53 am
Cupcake Dates are always Cupcake Dates. Final word.
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December 15th, 2009 at 10:20 am
Jeff,
I think you and Ms. Rinisaurus should go on a cupcake date.
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December 15th, 2009 at 11:41 am
Not sure I could deal with ‘open relationships’. Maybe it’s a male pride (as in lions) thing. Or maybe it’s just because once I put enough into something to make it a relationship, I want that reciprocated!
Can’t really see the point in doing things half-assed like that, other than for companionship I guess (and then, I would just call them friends… not girlfriends, I think!)
Glad you’re doin’ OK with the new shake-up
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December 15th, 2009 at 11:59 am
things weren’t serious with any of the guys.
What with The Boy being swamped with work and coaching, I won’t really see him until gymnastics season is over… and well, yeah. I’ve already stated what’s happened with The Musician.
…. maybe one of the new guys that I’m talking/flirting with… something might work out.
But no. I make a damn good girlfriend and do better in exclusive relationships. But right now I’m just open to whatever develops.
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December 15th, 2009 at 3:56 pm
As long as you’re okay, that’s truly what matters most.
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December 15th, 2009 at 5:39 pm
Yep! I’m okay!
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December 15th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
Aww well at least you were friends with him and you can say that you want him to be happy, I am sure he wants you to be happy as well.
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December 15th, 2009 at 6:20 pm
Yep, we started out as friends, and became a bit more than that… and we’re still going to be friends.
We both want each other to be happy.
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December 15th, 2009 at 6:42 pm
You are like the antithesis of me! I’m your stereotypical girlie girl who likes to have a bf not just dating–and would NEVER be ok with an open relationship–and if the guy chose the other girl he was seeing over me, i think i would just about flip. seriously.
so when I read that YES, you ARE okay with it–i called bullshit.
but….you really seem to be okay with it. through your comments, it seems like you’re just going with the flow. in which case, good for you! i know it’s not something I could ever do, but it seems to be working for you, so ROCK IT! : )
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December 15th, 2009 at 6:52 pm
He and I were never serious about anything other than our friendship.
Yes, there are going to be some things I’m going to miss… but I am happy for them. They’re a good fit for each other.
I’m still dating around — which mostly involves going on a date, maybe two – with various guys and seeing what may or may not come of it.
Trust me though… I’d pick one stellar boy over a handful of good ones.
… So, yes, I’m still okay. 
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December 15th, 2009 at 6:45 pm
Wow, that is a very cool plugin.
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December 16th, 2009 at 1:47 pm
I pick crazy girls over a handful good ones.
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December 17th, 2009 at 8:59 am
What about the good kind of crazy?
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December 17th, 2009 at 9:46 am
Everyone is crazy in their own way. People just pick and choose what kind of crazy they are willing to put up with. I’m all crazied out for this year, and probably some of 2010. Good crazy, bad crazy, I want no part of anything.
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December 17th, 2009 at 9:56 am
Aw. So I can’t convince you to come out to the city in January??
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